It is with great sadness that we share the news that our beautiful Judy left us earlier today, 4/2/2016, to embark on her next journey. Heaven has another extra special angel, our Judy.
Through this link, please share your stories and special moments, including thoughts,
prayers, words of insight that you have to share with Judy's family.
What you share on this page and site, will serve as a comfort and support for Drew, Reese, Trace and Judy's entire family. Your words will serve as a legacy for Judy and how much she means to all of us.
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Details of funeral arrangements will follow and we will update you later.
Judy! Your contagious spirit and energy shine so bright in all that you have touched. Caring on, SSJ, your beautiful family. I feel lucky to have shared in the journey of our oldest children and their friendship is a special one. Love you, love your family.
Peace and Love,
Jen Booth
Duncan, Tucker, Molly and Mac
Hi Reese!! I hope you and your family are doing well. I just wanted to share some love and support for you and your family during this time. You are an incredible person, athlete, and friend to many! Your mom is so lucky to have your smiling face and energy with her as she battles. I know you are constantly motivating, loving, listening, and caring for your mom and family every single day. I know this from coaching you- such a terrific teammate! You are surrounded by people who love you and support you (teammates, classmates, teachers, family, neighbors, and friends). If there is anything you need please let me know! Happy to help in any way possible. XO Josie
PrintI first met Judy at Mark Hoffman's aerobic classes over 30 years ago!Judy was a smile and a bolt of positive energy than, and continued to be every time I saw her. Luckliy my daughter and Reese became friends too-i fell lucky to have them all in our thoughts and prayers.
Laurie, Carli Freeman
I also met Judy many years ago in an aerobics class that she did every Saturday and it was a team teaching class. She was fun, pushed you to your limits while a smile on her face and it was packed every week!
That strong spirit is what I've always known and what she continues to have.
We are thinking of you and your family and holding you close in our prayers.
Love always
Laura and Louis Pakula
I also met Judy many years ago in an aerobics class that she did every Saturday and it was a team teaching class. She was fun, pushed you to your limits while a smile on her face and it was packed every week!
That strong spirit is what I've always known and what she continues to have.
We are thinking of you and your family and holding you close in our prayers.
Love always
Laura and Louis Pakula
Reese, I am thinking of you and what a sweet, thoughtful, and smart person you are. You must have inherited many of those traits from your beautiful mother. I certainly miss having you in Spanish class. I hope you are finding comfort and peace and find yourself surrounded by lots of love during this time.
Sincerely,
Senora Smith
Judy, it's been a while since we spent time together, but when we did hang, you always made me laugh and have fun! You are a strong, bold, courageous and vivacious lady and the world is better place because of you! Thank you for showing so many how to live life to its fullest! You and your family are in my prayers!
Love and blessings,
Jackie
Judy,
I don't even remember how or where we met. All I know is I was drawn to you. I wanted to know you. I wanted to see what that smile, that energy, that spirit was radiating from you. You're a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for blessing me by knowing you. All my love to you and your family!
Merrily
I am so saddened to hear this news. I know we haven't spoken in ages but you were always such a ball of positive energy & fun! How many endless marketing meetings did we suffer through only to retreat to our safe place, Starbucks, to laugh about it! I am thinking of you and sending you lots of LOVE!
Monique Savits
I met Judy our first year at Towson STATE. We lived on the same floor. We then joined the same sorority. We worked at the same health club. I rented a room from her and Drew in '99. Years together and years apart. She has ALWAYS been the most energetic person I have ever met. Her tenacious spirit is unmatched. She has fought bravely for a very long time. Be at peace my friend.
Love Always,
Ali Borzomati
Judy you and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be. We met many years ago in the MAC pool doing water aerobics:)! It was always great seeing you - you were always involved in something, always making things happen! You have been an inspiration to so many with your amazing strength and grit. Peace and Love, Jacque, Craig and the girls.
Those who know Judy, know how her amazing spirit radiates to everyone around her. She was not only our patient, she was part of our family. In my short time in health care I have not met anyone quite like her. She's funny, kind, smart, and most of all, she's strong. Everyone you meet is fighting some sort of battle, and when I met Judy I had no idea the fight she had already put in. She always had a smile on her face. She's truly amazing. I will never forget our conversations. The advice she has given me over the years will stay with me forever. She has made an impact on my life that has helped me become a better person. I am forever grateful. Love you Judes.
PrintJudy,
I met you years ago at Padonia Pool. We stood in the Adult pool section for hours as I listened to you tell your story to me. I was so overcome by your positive energy and courage that I immediately wanted to become your friend. You have inspired so many. I'm always keeping you and your family in my heart. 💕🙏🏻
~Kate English
Dearest Judy (and your family)... you and I first met in the 90's, when I was building sponsorships for the Baltimore Zoo, and you were magically marketing for Mile One. We hit it off over the phone and email, and then when we met in person, we were fast friends. Within moments of meeting you, I realized how lucky I was to know you. Your joy to live life to its fullest, was only surpassed by your energy to make things happen. I've always admired your spark and intelligence. Together we made some lovely things happen for the Zoo and Mile One. I met Drew when you were living in a townhouse off Padonia Road I believe. Then I also met Reese after you had just moved into your home near Timonium. I was impressed with your focus when you talked with me about your breast cancer and fighting it, and your ability to always keep your health and fitness a priority while being there first and foremost for your family. I always loved to spend time with you, and it was never often enough. We had deep philosophical conversations and fun ones too. You asked me some great questions about love and life and family. After I left the Zoo, I began to travel, my schedule was hectic, and we lost touch for awhile. Then you and I reconnected for a lengthy and meaningful lunch outside Wegman's several years ago. Although much time had passed between visits, it felt like none had passed. Thank you for being so mighty a woman, so rich a soul, so deeply an inspiration, for others, and for me personally. I want you to know how much you've helped me to keep going. I've been battling a serious illness for some time now, and so my social life has essentially evaporated, but I've kept up with you through Facebook. Through your dedicated focus to keep fighting, and to create some transformative good from your battle, you've inspired me to keep fighting my own battle. The love you have for Drew and your children is evident and strong and humbling. As is the love and support they have for you. I know they know how incredible you are. And I know they know how lucky they are that you are in their lives, even though it's incredibly difficult in these days especially.....Judy, I hope that you are feeling enveloped by the warmth of love that pours forth for you.... and buoyed by the knowledge that all of your good work and life lessons will keep moving forward... that your energy ripples through the rest of us to keep going no matter what... that you feel a soothing peace in the good and graceful deeds of your life and your heart and your soul... I am thankful for being able to share my thoughts now with you and your family, but I am deeply saddened that your transition from this life is near..... and so I want to thank YOU Judy for unknowingly changing me in lovely little ways... and thank YOU Judy for beautifully changing so many lives... and thank YOU Judy for changing the world through CaringOn and on and on..... You, Judy, are a mighty warrior with a fierce heart and a brave, caring soul.... and you will be so dearly missed. I am so blessed to have known you..... love, love, love always.... Denise Dalton (Cable)
PrintI attended Whitman with Judy and although I didn't know her well I remember her as always smiling and she always seemed approachable. She had such a warm presence about her. In a high school with over 2 thousand teenagers she stood out in her kindness. You felt you could trust her without even knowing her. My regret is not knowing her better. She must be an amazing mom, wife, friend, and daughter. Those who have stayed in touch have been blessed by an angel in Judy.
Ann Nail Turner
I met Judy back in the days of Padonia Fitness Center when she would teach with her high energy and enthusiastic mannerisms. We reconnected years later when our girls did gymnastics at Rebounders and Judy would attempt to occupy my then 1 1/2- 2 year old high energy son for one straight hour in an enclosed room while waiting for our girls. Her energy transpired to him and she managed to take over for me! Just a few years ago, Judy was a fabulous model for a fashion show I produced for charity. She rocked the runway with her confidence and natural talent. Always beautiful, kind spirited, and contagious positive energy. Judy is one of a kind! Thoughts and prayers and lots of love coming from me to all of you!
PrintJudy – Your strength, perseverance, positive attitude and overall outlook on life has inspired many people all over in so many ways, including myself. I have shared a few conversations at Pinewood with you and learned so much from you. One of the many things you helped me realize through those chats is that money can’t buy health. As long as you have your health, you are wealthy! You are a fighter, teacher, and leader! You were the comforter when you were the one to be comforted. You definitely left a footprint in the hearts of many. If there is anything you or your family need, I am here!
PrintGirlfriend!
I remember just about every time we spent together (the other times -you would remind me!) and the first time you came up to me and introduced yourself at the MAC - who knew you were sick at that moment and my family was about to spin out of control with liver cancer too!
you broke down our door (a year or more later) when we were trying to hide under a rock) and helped us to take control of the F-ing cancer. I really didn't know you ......but now I LOVE you!!!
When i leave from spending time with you , i sometimes feel selfish---you are such a giver! you make EVERYONE feel like your BEST friend. I want to help you, make YOUR life easier ...but YOU end up teaching me LIFE lessons.
NO doubt- GOD gave me the gift of YOU! I know some things I can do to repay- I'm just waiting for my ORDERS from YOU!
love,
a member of your army
Erica xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
I had the pleasure of meeting Judy when I was pregnant with my daughter and diagnosed with breast cancer . Mercy referred her to me since she had been thru a similar diagnosis . She came to my house and was so kind.. Sharing and honest about what I could expect and how she felt . Although we did not get back in touch until Many years later thru post I had seen on Facebook I know she was someone who would do great things for others and had such a wonderful spirt . May god watch over you and your family .
Jill WIECHERT
Dear Judy and family: we've known each for many years. We lived beside each other in Mays Chapel. We worked together in the fitness industry. We hung out at Padonia Park Swim Club. You had more energy than the Energizer Bunny. You had always been positive and loving along your journey. May you live forever in the comfort of God. We will meet again . Xoxo
PrintMrs. Judy, I don't see you much anymore other then an occasional hi in target once in a while but you still mean as much to be as you did when I was a child. I remember playing with Trace while Kate and Reese had their sleepovers. I loved playing in your backyard and basement. When I see you all I see is positivity and a beautiful smile. I will always look to you as a mentor and inspiration. I will always see you as family. Prayers sent to you and to your family.
PrintI met Judy in college at TSU! We were in the education program together and at the same time she was also just beginning her additional "career" of working at Brick Bodies teaching aerobics.
We were in the same co-hort of friends that studied together for our last 4 semesters at school. We had every class together and became good friends as we helped each other through projects, studying, and making the best of classes and some of our professors!
I ran into Judy last summer in Hunt Valley Town Center when were both in the same restaurant. I ran right over to her and we chatted like no time had passed!
Judy has an amazing spirit and I could see it in her eyes so many years later. She will always be a light to me that helped me in those struggling college days and as I read so much about her now, it seems none of that changed over the years! She continued to shine her light and spark with everyone she met. It was truly my joy and privilege for her to be a part of my life!! What a special person! Thinking of you all and sending lots of prayers and ((HUGS)).
~Heidi (Williams) Shorter
Mrs. Judy,
I feel like most of my early childhood was spent at your house whenever my mom would go over to spend time with you. I dont remember much as I was very little but I do remember I loved coming over and playing with Reese. I always love running into you all at Padonia and catching up even just for a few minutes. It was great to see Reese at NDP just for a short time before I graduated. I would love to give any advice or help I can to Reese in your journey at NDP.
Love,
Kelly Majerowicz
I remember meeting Judy in 1981 when I started at Western junior high. Judy lived down the street from me on Bent Branch Road. The Walcoff/Goldberg family really held my hand and showed me the ropes in my new school. Judy became or should I say I became the 4th sister in the family. We walked to the bus every day togethet and came home from school every day together and had snack. It was from the instant warmth of Judy Jill and Andrea that I felt apart of the family. Fast forward to the last 5 years - I have been so fortunate to spend time with Judy at my house in Hamptons or in NYC! Judy always rallied to have a good time. There was never a complaint out of her mouth. Judy you are my angel always. I smile when I think about you. You fought the fight like a champion. you are my hero Judy! I love you to pieces my sweet girl. Xoxo💋💋
PrintI am so honored to call Judy my friend. It seems like yesterday when we worked on our first ad campaign together, but it was about 20 years ago. Since then we have come in and out of our lives at some very significant times. When we first met, I was in awe of Judy's enthusiasm, beauty, creativity, and loyalty! Then a few years later we got to work side by side at The Sun. Once during a heavy snow storm I was nervous about driving home so Judy and Drew followed me home. I eventually ditched my car at a park and ride and Drew drove me the rest of the way. It was such a sweet gesture and showed how caring and kind they both are. I remember visiting Judy and Drew in the hospital after Reese was born. They have always been such a beautiful family. I remember when Judy called me after she was diagnosed the first time. The strength she showed in the face of adversity was amazing and the love and devotion Drew showed was beautiful. A few years went by before our paths crossed again and this time it was our daughters who brought us together. We shared some fun times at Padonia, Rebounders, birthday parties, play dates, attempted sleepovers, and a couple of concerts (Justin Beiber and Selena Gomez)! A few more years past by and we celebrated turning 40! Then I got the text about the second diagnosis. That was 4 years and 2 weeks ago. It stopped me in my tracks. But not Judy. She was driven to make a difference and she has in so many ways. Every time I see Judy and I am struck by her energy and her smile. There have been long gaps when we haven't seen each other, but once we connect, time melts away. I see Judy as a visionary and a pioneer, never allowing obstacles prevent her from accomplishing her goals. CaringOn is just one example. She is also a wonderful mother, I have seen it first hand, and everyone can see it through her children. Judy has a beautiful soul and I feel blessed that we have shared a part of our journey together. I am praying that you feel peace now.
PrintJudy you are an inspiration to all that know you. Your positive spirit, your love of family, your ability to shine in the face of adversity, your passion to help others, a fighter, a survivor.
I remember being a regular at your packed aerobics classes at Padonia Fitness and more recently enjoying the book club holiday gift swap. You are a gift to all that know you and have taught us so many life lessons along the way.
Sending love peace and prayers to you and your family.💜
xoxo,
Laurie Wingate
Judy Judy Judy you have always been the energizer bunny to me! Whether teaching a 175 bpm --higher speed then most humans could go-- even "out walking" me with the dogs on the Oregon Ridge trail whilest still in treatment -- to your never ending love for your family, friends, and your organization--- you are a role model of positive energy loving on all those whose lives you have touched. Well done Gods faithful servant. May Gods loving arms be around you and all of your loved ones 💐
Love you Judy 💜:)BB
Judy,
I'm so very grateful that you showed up on my doorstep the first week I moved into the neighborhood. I was immediately drawn to your warmth and your genuine suggestion that we should be friends and hang out with our boys. Getting to know your family has truly been a blessing for all of us Bells. Trace came into Declan's life at just the right time and I'm incredibly thankful that Declan has him as a true blue friend. I will always think of you with utmost appreciation for being the angel who introduced them every time they hang out. My friendship with you has been way too short but I'm so glad to be among those who love you dearly. You are an inspiration for your strength and courage. Thanks so much for being my friend,
Molly (and...Dyer, Declan, Mac and Rory)
Thinking of you and your family Judy. I am glad we re-connected via Facebook. I have wonderful childhood memories of you at school and as a neighbor. I remember when your house in Tulip Hill was being built! And your dad's ice cream shop of course. You are an inspiring woman in all you have accomplished in your adult life. Rest easy my friend.
PrintWe first met Judy when she was on the set of a movie being filmed at my parent's house. We then met again at Padonia, and ran into each other countless times after that. Most recently, our families paths crossed in the lacrosse world. The one thing that I remember is that EVERY SINGLE TIME I saw Judy she had a smile on her face. Through several brief, yet very meaningful conversations, I knew my path had crossed with an amazing woman. My hope is that our paths will cross again.
Our hearts go out to the entire Davanzo family.
Love,
Bill, Becky, Jake and Blair Kinney
There is not a memory of Judy that doesn't contain her without a huge smile on her face. While we may not have stayed close since high school I have been inspired by her courage and strength. She has blessed so many with her tenatious efforts. The world is a better place because of your contributions! Judy, I am sending lots of love and warm thoughts to you and your family. Your love and memory will live long and strong. Lots of love, Debbi
PrintDearest Judy,
So many wonderful memories at the MAC..working out with Aundre' together. "Beauty and the Beast" workouts. You always got there late with your coffee in hand and always had on the coolest necklaces. As tiny and petite as you are, you were certainly a "beast"! So strong. So determined. You were a force to be reckoned with. I admire you for so many reasons, but mostly for your courageous spirit and love of life. I always looked forward to our many lunches together...listening to you talk about the things that meant the most to you... I always loved hearing about your beautiful children. Thank you for always being you...for always lighting up the room. Thank you for teaching me the true meaning of inner strength. You will forever hold a special place in my soul. Love you always sweet Judy. 💜
Bridgette Pearce
Dearest Judy,
I can't help smiling when I think of you. I remember when I first met you at Padonia fitness center. You were one of the first people I met when I moved to Baltimore and oh what fun we used to have:)You always had such a positive uplifting spirit and were always a good friend to me. I am sad that our paths have not crossed lately but I will always cherish the times we had together. Your smile will continue to shine on us and remind us what matters in life. I look forward to seeing you again someday. Love and prayers to your family.
Nicole Gait
Dear Judy,
It has been awhile since we last spoke, but my thoughts and prayers have been with you always. We met many years ago thru my neighbor Remi. I loved the time we spent together. You were a true blessing to have in my life. The only picture I have of you is at my son Grant's 1st birthday. Reese would have been about 4 or 5. What a great day to share with you and your beautiful family.
Thank you for all you gave me in your friendship. I am sorry I didn't get to tell you how much I enjoyed and loved you.
God's peace with you and your family.
Kim MacIver
Judy,
You are a powerhouse. Your energy and spirit are unrivaled. Some way, somehow, you have managed to accomplish extraordinary feats over the past few years despite your illness and your family is remarkable. You've left an amazing legacy in your children and I've no doubt they will make you proud as they grow into adults. We all feel privileged to have known you.
Tom
I wrote this letter to Judy and read it to her today. I was asked to share it on this page, so I gladly said yes. I love you Judy.
My Dearest Judy,
It's not easy to put into words the impact you and your kids have had on my life. You are a beautiful person inside and out and I am so grateful to have been part of your life for so many years. You are such a special person and you have been an inspiration for me for so long. You are a kick ass mom who raised two perfect kids, while simultaneously battling the toughest battle there is and starting the most inspiring and selfless organization, Caring On. You set the world on fire and you have made an impact on the world and me. I promise I will take the best care of your kids and be the best role model I can possibly be for them. Just like you asked me to. I'll make sure that Reese doesn't get too sassy or take rides in Ubers when she isn't supposed to. I'll make sure that she knows she is beautiful and deserves the absolute best. I'll make sure Trace laughs his adorable laugh as much as possible and sees that the possibilities are endless for him. I'll always play the board games he loves and I promise I will always let him win. You have fought the longest, hardest battle imaginable and you have done it with the utmost grace and positivity. I'm so grateful to be able to call you my friend. I know that you will be by angel who will watch over me to make sure I not only live life to the fullest, but also find the best guy that "deserves my time", like you always used to say. You've inspired me to live life the way you did, with such positivity and energy even when times got tough and unbearable. Thank you for always being there for me when I've needed a friend. I love you so much Judy and I will never, ever forget you my beautiful sunshine.
Love always,
Cailin
Gratitude .... that is the first word that pops in my mind when I think of you my dear friend.
While our lives intersected in so many ways for so long, it wasn't until a mutual friend could not understand why we had never met and pushed us to get together to share our bond on trying to make cancer patients and their caregivers lives a little easier.
We sat at your favorite Starbucks in Timonium and talked. In an instant, your warm, energetic, caring, and funny personality had me at hello and I would do anything for you.
Your creativity and caring are at a level that I have never seen before. You always have that smile that lights up a room. You make water part to make a patients wishes come true.
Your love of your family shines through.
I will forever be grateful for our friendship. For the love that you have shown me. For teaching me what it means to appreciate to live and love life.
You are always in my heart and for that it is never good bye.
I remember when I first met Judy. We are both mothers at St. Paul's plus preschool her daughter Reese was in my sons class Philip. They were in the four-year-olds and we looked each other at a parent Association meeting planning a "breakfast with Santa" and both rolled Our eyes. It was going to be the usual stuffy Event it had been the year prior. We decided to get the kids involved and planned facepainting and for each child to read a part of the story "Twas the night before Christmas". It was a huge success and sold out every year after. I'll never forget joking with her the day we started planning the event and getting to know her. She always had a smile on her face and was so positive giving off that light that we all have a come to know as her. From that day I instantly knew that she was truly a special and amazing person and God had big plans for her. Judy thank you for teaching me patience , compassion, to laugh about the little things and never let obstacles keep you from doing big things. I love you. Your an angel now and I know you will be an angel in Heaven.
PrintJudy,
We first met at the Pinewood Elementary Turkey Trot where our children were "racing." You are such a ray of sunshine. You were so open about yourself, your battle, I was truly inspired. We have always stayed in touch, running into each other around the neighborhood, at school functions, or at Padonia Pool. I cherish the days we sat pool side and just chatted away. You always remain positive, always thinking of others. You have shown people that one person can make a difference in this crazy world.
You have so much support, prayers, and love from so many people. You are an inspiration to me and so many people. I know I am not the only one who is a better person because of you.
Yours truly,
Liz Hembling
Judy,
I remember the first time I met you about two years ago over a cup of tea to tell you about The Red Devils and learn more about Caring On. After 2 hours of chatting about everything under the sun, I remember feeling like I had just spent 2 hours with a dear friend. I was Impressed by your selflessness and how that led to the start of Caring On. You have touched the lives of so many caregivers. Your spirit, warmth,infectious smile and selflessness are what I will remember most.
Much love,
Tricia Hayden
Davanzo family,
Aside from Reese coming over to hang out with Colleen, the first time I really spent time with the rest of you was at a dinner at Cheesecake Factory - years ago! The service was slow and of course everyone was super hungry, but Judy was smiling and incredibly chatty - singlehandedly keeping the rest of us in a great mood. I remember leaving and saying to my sister "She is the most energetic person I have EVER met in my life." That energy and positivity is something that has always stuck with me and is truly unforgettable. Judy, thank you for inspiring so many people, and really showing us all what it means to be a fighter.
All four of you are amazing people, and are in my thoughts and prayers every day.
Much love,
Caitlin Keefe
Judy, We first met at my house, sitting by my backyard pool. We got together to meet each other and prepare for our first year of teaching kindergarten together at Oliver Beach. You also met with my son, Justin, as you would be his teacher. You made him feel so special that day. From the first moment we met, I saw that special energy and joy for life that radiate from you. Through our time teaching together, we shared our ideas, experiences, accomplishments and frustrations. Your sense of humor, your positive attitude, and your contagious love of life helped me keep things in perspective. We haven't seen each other in many years, but I am glad we reconnected on Facebook. You continue to help me keep things in perspective and focus on what is truly important. You have touched so many lives...you are such an inspiration! I wish you and your family God's love and peace.
PrintJudy~
We first many years ago when you moved to Tulip Hill. We attended elementary school through high school together, same bus route every day for years!
I fondly recall times by the pool in my back yard when we were little, games at the bus stop as we aged, and finally reconnecting as adults via Face Book with us both living in Baltimore.
You are a strong courageous driven and giving person who has helped to make this world a more positive place.
Rest easy surrounded by your family.
T.Ann McElroy
Reese,
I had the pleasure of being your legends lacrosse coach a few summers ago and the thing that I remember most about you and your mom were that no matter what, you both brought some sunshine wherever you went. During my first summers coaching I was always a little bit nervous around the parents but your mom always had a smile on her face and kind words to share.
Your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers and I just wanted you to know that even though years have passed since we've seen each other, the positively and happiness your family brings has never gone unnoticed and is a rare thing to find.
-Leah Perrotta
Judy is one of those people that you meet once and remember forever. Judy, we've met a couple times, and just from those brief meetings, I draw inspiration, energy, and smiles. It was mind-blowing to conceive of the battles you were fighting-- you were stronger, spunkier, more vibrant, loving, fun, and warm, than most people walking around out there. I am therefore awed and humbled, when I think of you. You are a shining example of what a human being can be. A kind and noble warrior. A friend and beloved to so many. In short, you are an inspiration. Thank you for coming into my life. I am thinking of you and your family, and praying for you. May there be comfort and strength.
PrintJudy, my first memory of you was rolling through the halls of Pinewood in your Halloween costume. I've never seen you without a smile or a hello. Your positive outlook and never failing ability to engage with others has been a source of amazement for me. Thank you for always sharing your spirit with all of us. XO Gina
PrintJudy, Words cannot begin to describe the amazing woman, mother, wife, teacher, and friend you are. Your energy, love of life, and love for others have not only touched but inspired so many and we are beyond blessed to know you! We love you so, and you and your family on on our minds and in our prayers. Love, Rebecca and Brian Wyatt
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The Judy I knew--
My sister in law was the kind of friend everyone wants. The kind of friend who you could go months without talking to, and pick up right where you left off. The kind of friend who always made you feel special when you were with her. The kind of friend you love and admire, and respect for so many reasons.
I’ve been to Starbucks thousands of times. Judy and I probably took ten trips to Starbucks together just to talk, or take a drive, or get away and have a chance to talk without little ears around, or having to share the conversation with others. Every trip to Starbucks- or every little errand we ran together- maybe to the grocery store, or to pick up sushi, was special. Judy had an energy and touched everyone, everywhere she went. Always smiling, always striking up a conversation, making someone else smile. We traded stories and shared details about life that no one knew we shared, and it was all safe and beautiful and trusted. A simple errand became a memorable event, because the conversation was meaningful and the company was so unique. Having time with Judy one on one was always special to me.
I knew Judy before she was ever sick, before she was forced to become the fiercest fighter I know. Keeping up with Judy was tough at times, in the best ways possible. She ALWAYS wanted to make the most of each day, each opportunity. If we went to yoga class, she did it 100%. The few times we went for a run together, it was a challenge to keep up. When she wanted to go out late or squeeze in ‘one more’ thing after a busy day, it was a challenge to keep up. Judy had more energy and a greater appreciation for life than anyone I know.
When Judy got sick the first time, the world got to see a strength we wish we never had to see. Why did Judy get cancer the first time? It wasn’t fair. She was so young, so healthy, a model of fitness. I know first hand that she had ups and downs, but she handled it with a strength and power that inspired a new level of love and respect. Cancer would not stop Judy from living her life, from loving life, from doing things she loved. Judy went from a super cool sister in law into the woman I admired most. She was a fierce fighter who kept the smile, made the time you spent with her even MORE special, and refused to stop, even when you knew she was tired or even in pain. There was no complaining. There was no sympathy seeking. She was a leader, a fighter, inspiring people without knowing it most of the time. 5 foot 4 maybe? 100 pounds maybe? And if you asked me who the strongest person I know was - Judy was always the first person who popped into my head.
Once during her first bout with cancer, Judy had a bad few days or week. I happen to speak to her on the phone during that time, and was sad to hear the tone in her voice. It was 100% normal and justified, but so rare. It allowed me a chance, not selfishly, but to share with Judy how strong she was, how brave a fighter, and what an inspiration she was to me, and certainly many other people who may or may not have told her. Being able to ‘pay back’ and communicate openly about how enormous my respect was for her approach to living- to fighting- to staying optimistic- it felt like a another gift from Judy. She finally showed a weakness that allowed me to pick her up a little, make her smile, in perhaps a similar way to what she did every day, everywhere she went.
I have not seen Judy the past few months, and we have not spoken on the phone. I feel bad about that, but know she knows I love her very much. There should have been so many more good times together, but you cannot change the past. I prefer to be so grateful for the times we did have, and the chances to be around her.
Judy -I will remember your smile that lit up every room. Your wit. Your sarcasm. The special times we had our private talks. I know you feel that our talks were special also, and our friendship was special. I hope you know they were more than special to me. They were events I will never forget. I will remember the way you loved Reese and Trace and Drew. The way you greeted everyone who walked into your house. You made everything better- you made people feel special. Your infectious energy was a gift.
You made the world a better place. Anyone who met you was better for having known you. You made your mark. You shared your love. I will miss you, but I will smile when I think about you, because that is what you would want.
Judy and her family are staunch supporters of Susan G. Komen and the Race for the Cure in Hunt Valley. Her team "Stay Strong Judy" (SSJ)has been a top team at the Race for the past several years. But more than that, Judy and her entire family are good friends of the organization. They are always willing to speak out about the breast cancer journey and its affects not only on the person in treatment, but family, friends and caregivers. Their stories provided comfort and education for thousands of people in the local area through media interviews. Judy and her family were always all smiles and positivity when we met with them, and were a source of inspiration for us at Komen Maryland to continue the work we do to provide services for those affected by breast cancer and contribute to national research. SSJ forever! --Kim Schmulowitz and your friends at Komen Maryland
PrintIt has been some time since I've spoken with Judy, which I regret, but wanted to share a few thoughts and memories.... For the first years of my childhood Judy was my next door neighbor. I remember constantly running in and out of each other's houses, and in a more carefree and innocent time, playing outside together until dark or a parent called us in. We stayed in touch after they moved as our families were close friends. What I remember most about Judy, whether as a child, teen or adult facing many challenges along the way, was her positive energy, spirit and infectious smile and laugh. I know that spirit lives on in her children as yet another beautiful soul has left this Earth. My prayers and thoughts go out to her family whom I love dearly. --- Shari Jasnow
PrintI only met Judy about a year ago, through her sister Jill, but we instantly bonded. Her energy and enthusiasm for life was contagious and she will always be my idol. Her fight was admirable from the outside, but I am sure it was not what she wanted to be admired for. I wish I could have spent more time with her, but I know she is out of pain now and may her memory be a blessing to all who knew her and even to those who didn't. You are now an angel.
Bucky (Beth)
Drew, Reese, and Trace,
It was a true pleasure helping Judy plan your trip to Auburn last Fall. She talked about it and planned it out for several months and all she talked about was making it special for you, as just a small token of her appreciation for ALL of you being her wonderful family and caregiver. She was so thankful....and she did great at keeping the trip a surprise !
I hope you will find peace in the fact that she is no longer suffering. 1 Corinthians 15:54-55.
See you all soon my friends.
Dan Lovell
While it's been over a decade since the Feats family had the privilege of working with Judy, we will never forget her joy for life and the passion she poured into every project she led or supported.
Last time we met, Judy was creating Caring On with Lee, busy planning ways to create opportunities for others to learn about it and support it. Having spent many years living with a caregiver and various family members she nurtured, often round the clock for months at a time, this brought tears to my eyes.
It was impossible to know Judy without being touched in the most wonderful way. I am smiling with tears now, thinking about her infectious smile, her passion, and her never ending thoughtfulness for others. I can't imagine how she won't live on through her wonderful family and the rest of us who were lucky enough to have been Judyized so deeply along her remarkable journey.
Paul and Dorothy Wolman
I know Judy that your heavenly body is just amazing, free of pain and suffering, and your rewards are so great that no Earthly words can explain. Enjoy the indescribable love and beauty of your new existence. We will miss you but in a blink of an eye we will all be together again.
May God shine His loving favor and eternal Peace only He can give to your family at this time. You have left a loving community behind that will attempt to shine their light on your family as well in support and any help that they may need. Your Love you created here will continue on in all the lives you have touched so profoundly. "Carry On" as you say ;)
Stay in touch I am always open to receive ;)
xoxox BB
Being a neighbor, I knew Judy first through sharing home decorating ideas and getting snakes out of her front yard. As I got to know her, and share life stories with her, two things became apparent to me. One was that she LOVED her family, Drew, Reese, and Trace. The second was that she LOVED people. She was always caring for someone, trying to help others in some way. Even through her own struggles and busy life she found a brilliant way to care for others in her life through CaringOn. She certainly cared for my father, honoring his wishes to have us pampered by CaringOn. Although she is not with us here, Judy will continue to inspire me and everyone that she touched with her endless love and joy, and her tireless compassion for others. Thank you Judy for allowing me to know such an altruistic, loving person.
-Leah McGinnity and Family
I met Judy in the 80's, she was that vibrant aerobics teacher at Padonia Fitness Center, the class that everyone wanted to take. I remember her as this bouncy little thing that had everyone happy and motivated to be the best they could. Years passed, we each got married, started our families and went in different but similar directions. Judy and I caught up again when Reece and Sophia were little lacrosse players, probably 5 years old. We would talk and laugh at practice, try to watch the girls and also laugh at Alex and Trace while they "played" lacrosse or soccer. I remember Trace being 3 and wearing these tiny cleats. I just loved our times together, we always had so much to talk about. We arranged playdates with our boys, held them at different houses. Never enough time for all of us moms to catch up. I remember running into Judy at my Uncle Johnny Lambros' viewing and being so surprised that she had babysat for my cousin Valerie. You never knew everything about Judy. She never ceased to amaze me. Over the years, our friendship evolved from our children's sporting events. I started working out Judy and a wonderful group of women at the MAC. I immediately felt so welcome in this group that had been together for years. Thats how Judy is, everyone is her BEST friend. I was lucky enough to have lunch with Judy less then two weeks before she passed away. One would think that it would have been hard knowing that the person your with was in their last phase of her life. It was not. We laughed, we cried, we talked about CaringOn, Drew, Reece and Trace. and how much she loves them. We talked about dying, we talked and talked. AND, Judy ate and ate- she actually ordered two meals and ate both. She texted me later saying how much fun she had and couldn't wait to do it again.
This morning I was talking to my son about my friendship with Judy. Alex was saying he felt bad for Trace and wasn't sure how he would let him know, how difficult it is for little guys to express their sorrow. We talked about her legacy and how she touched so many people. We both decided that we can keep Judy's legacy alive by living and sharing joy like Judy did everyday, Smile and be nice to everyone.
Drew, Reece and Trace, thank you for sharing Judy with all of us this past week. I will always cherish my times with your wife and mother. Thank you. I know Judy is in a better place smiling at all of us. May God bless you and keep you safe and may Judy's memory be eternal. xoxox Staci Klima
Dear Reese and Trace,
I had the wonderful luck to be one of those people that knew your mom for most of her life. We met in elementary school and pretty much were inseparable after that through high school. We played soccer together, but mostly we just hung out together all the time and never grew tired of each other. All the wonderful things about your mom that people have been writing about your mom were true then. She has always been a social butterfly and always been a scrappy girl who took what life threw at her and made the best of it. I have few regrets in life but one is that your mom and i have lived our adult lives too far apart. She was such a good friend (and so was i) but theres no getting around the fact that when times are difficult it stinks to be so far away. Some of my favorite times with judy were in the last couple of years. When she came to california three years ago we sat by my pool and shared ideas on caring on, and my foundation that helps girls around the world. Your mom, sick, found her energy and meaning, in you two, and in helping others. My absolute favorite day with your mom was in paris where we shopped in the marais and got falafel sandwiches and took them to the top of the eiffel tower. She also dragged her 85 pound body up to the top of sacre coeur leaving bert and me behind. Her excitementand energy and sense of fun overcame her exhaustion and she did not miss a minute of the experience. We talked a lot about raising our kids and how aligned we were. We have definite plans for you reese and my ryan to cross paths in the future. Your mom loved you so much and has left you in the amazing hands of your awesome dad and both of their families. I know she will be there watching you and hearing you as you go through the many adventures of your lives. I know her spark and energy and zest for life will guide you and be with you forever. Love, stacey
We met at Pinewood when our girls were little, probably a few years after losing my parents to cancer. It was such a reality check for me to realize that I wasn't living my life because I was worried that I *might* get cancer, whereas Judy was this amazingly vibrant and energetic woman living with cancer, and with the knowledge that it could come back to get her. It never stopped her. She lived her life to the fullest, and taught foolish people, like me, that fear shouldn't get in the way. I want to send my gratitude to Reese and Trace and Drew for sharing Judy with the rest of us, and send my deepest condolences.
PrintJudy,
You made me feel welcome in the family the instant you met me. Warm and genuinely interested, talking to me like we were old friends after a long hiatus.
I remember vividly a conversation we had about Coldplay and loving their music. You were so funny -you always knew so much about celebrities' lives!
We shared the best memories about our (extremely similar) Davanzo husbands - we laughed until we cried about the brotherly best friends. We would talk for hours and giggle like teenagers about everything. And anything. It didn't matter. It was just so easy. And honest.
I will never forget our special bond. I will always remember how much you loved our girls. Aunt, sister-in-law, friend. Thank you for your gift of showing the world how to make every single person, every single day matter. You taught us all how to live each moment to the fullest no matter what comes our way. You conquered the most difficult things this universe can challenge a person with. And you did so with the utmost positivity and humility.
We will all miss you immensely, Judy. But remembering all the lives you touched with a nod, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a gentle hug. Love never ends. This is just our hiatus, until we meet again in Heaven.
Judy,
You made me feel welcome in the family the instant you met me. Warm and genuinely interested, talking to me like we were old friends after a longhiatus.
I remember vividly a conversation we had about Coldplay and loving their music. You were so funny -you always knew so much about celebrities' lives!
We shared the best memories about our (extremely similar) Davanzo husbands - we laughed until we cried about the brotherly best friends. We would talk for hours and giggle like teenagers about everything. And anything. It didn't matter. It was just so easy. And honest.
I will never forget our special bond. I will always remember how much you loved our girls. Aunt, sister-in-law, friend. Thank you for your gift of showing the world how to make every single person, every single day matter. You taught us all how to live each moment to the fullest no matter what comes our way. You conquered the most difficult things this universe can challenge a person with. And you did so with the utmost positivity and humility.
We will all miss you immensely, Judy. But remembering all the lives you touched with a nod, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a gentle hug. Love never ends. This is just our hiatus, until we meet again in Heaven.
Mrs. Judy,
Thank you for the endless summers and memories at the beach, for the millions of talks we have had about boys, life, family, and just joking around. Its going to take me some time to get used to not being able to text you and just vent. Im going to miss you more than you know and I am so thankful to have spent the past 16 years of my life with you as a second mother to me. Thank you for inspiring me to be the best person I can be and for teaching me how to be thankful for every single day. You were the most inspiring, amazing, and the strongest person I have and will ever meet in my lifetime. You always had a smile on your face and never failed to make my day and make me die laughing. I promise to always make sure Reesey cup is ok and be there for her whenever she may need me. I promise to love trace just as much as you did. Thank you for everything. I'll miss you. Rest easy pretty lady. Not a day will go by where I don't think about you. See you soon in heaven. Send reesey cup, trace, and I lots of kisses. I love you. never forget your little shrimpy down here xoxoxo
Love you forever,
Lexi Bell
For the next two days (an on and on) we celebrate her life-Judy wants a CELEBRATION! I wrote this letter to her over two years ago- just didn't know how much time we wold have together. She looked at me like I was crazy after I read It-Because she CLEARLY had more work to do! :)
TAKE CARE!
December 13, 2014
My Dearest Judy,
I have found out more in the past year or so that people come into your life for real reasons and there's no doubt you came into my life for a reason. You wanted me to TAKE CARE.
I always take notice when a person like you comes into my life- so bright like a Meteorite. No matter how small (or sick) you get the size and brightness of your light never changes. As a matter fact, I would beg to say that most people never forget the first time they ever meet you. I actually decided to ask a few people if they remembered the first time they ever met you and of course they said "YES!"
So, back to the first time you came up to me at the MAC and introduced yourself (just like that big bright flash of light). I remember you -and you were bubbly and you were fun, and I knew immediately that we could have a great time together AND that we would have a lot in common …but we were at two completely different places in our live.... but not really. What we had no idea at that time was that both you and John had a horrible disease growing in your livers. This is what would ultimately bring us together.
When I found out you were sick I just wanted to help you, I wanted to reach out to you, but I felt a little uncomfortable because I didn't really know you. I did not want to be intrusive at such a hard time. But the couple times I saw you… once again you were full of LIGHT. You actually looked at me and said “I’m terminal” with a smile on your face. You were always making people feel more at ease.
What I know for sure about you is that you want people to “TAKE CARE”. And when you say that you don't mean it in passing. You don't mean it as an impersonal salutation. You're serious! You want Caregivers to be taken care of, you want Patients to be taken care of, you want Families to be taken care of, you want YOUR family to be taken care of (especially), AND you know how important it is to take care of yourself!
One of my favorite stories about you is when you told me one of your big regrets in life was that you weren't one of the “Super Rich”. Because you wished that you could just buy your friends anything they wanted and give out gifts to them all the time. That's what made YOU happy- giving to others! I love that about you!
When John was diagnosed, I truly did not want to let anyone else in. I kinda wanted to close all the doors and windows and hold up inside with my family and deal with everything alone… BUT!- Judy Davanzo wouldn't have that! You called, you contacted, you came over, you were going to help! You were going to TAKE CARE of us. You offered ideas you actually even offered me A gift from CaringOn. At the time I thought that was so crazy. I couldn't even imagine taking any time for myself. I thought I was fine! All I could think was "how can I help her? how can I help this amazing cause she's come up with through this unbelievable illness she perseveres!" I thought "I want to be like her! "
So I've been thinking a lot about why God brought us together… Well, I hope you got something from me —Lord!... who knows what??? but, I know what I've learned …To have more strength in hard times and Think more about others even when I'm in pain and suffering. I learned from you that no matter what, you can persevere and be freaking hilarious at the same time!!
I love that you are so smart and so convincing and so sure of yourself that if you were trying to get your point across to somebody and they were to ask you a question and your response was "because!!" -That would be acceptable for most people. You are that PERSUASIVE!...and you know there's always a way to get something done. You are relentless and righteous and I find these qualities to be AWESOME!
Judy, thank you for all of your love and all of your lessons. I haven’t known you long but thank you for letting me know you WELL. I love you and I am here for you- just ask. I will be SURE to TAKE CARE of you, your family, of my family, myself and others.
I love you FOREVER- Erica xoxo
Judy - My heart is brimming with love for you and your beautiful family. As long as I live I will never forget the grace with which every single member of your family has opened their hearts to share you with your formidable fan club during your final days. My very favorite example of this was when, as usual, your room was full with visitors, the nurse began waving people out of the room claiming the energy was 'agitating' you. Your sweet Trace ran down the hall to get Drew. Drew kindly, calmly (but firmly), told the nurse, "Listen, this is how Judy likes her rooms, busy and full of life. If there is anything that agitates her its being alone in silence". It is absolutely no surprise to me that your family, who would have had every right to “keep you to themselves” has, instead, gone above and beyond to create the perfect send off for you. Jill said today, “you may be gone physically but your spirit has never been more alive”. More true words have never been spoken. Judy – I feel so incredibly blessed to have spent so much time with you, especially in the last 2 years. Our trip to New York City, just the two of us, was a gift beyond measure. The ridiculously bad show we saw but loved anyway because we both hated it together, the strange “Once groupies” we met who left us truly scratching our heads, the BIZARRE waiter presumptuously ordering for me and then bringing us the cookies, STILL ON THE TRAY, to “win back our favor” but, in fact, left us thinking perhaps he had been drinking on the job, the ENDLESS energy with which you “attacked” NYC (a place we mutually SO loved) despite your illness – never ONCE complaining but always striking the perfect balance between digging deep to do all you wanted to do but always letting me know when you’d reached your limit. Of course, my favorite part of the trip was the ENDLESS hours of conversation talking about everything there is to talk about. What stands out in my memory is the conversation we had about your legacy; your impact and how all this will play out after you are gone. I remember reassuring you that what you have given the world has made a lasting impact. I remember telling you how lucky you were - that no woman could ask for a better father for her children (and you agreed). But what has played on repeat in my brain for the past two weeks is how I wish I had been more specific. I thought I had said all there was to say, but I find myself wishing I had said MORE. JUDY --- how I wish I had told you, in very specific terms, what an incredible and beautiful example you have been to me on how to live the best version of your life. I wish I had told you how even my children know this about you. I wish I could have told you then what I know now with every fiber of my being --- that this strong and joyful legacy you have left your children to always push to live the best version of your life, coupled with the incredible, no – MAGNIFECENT – support of your family unit will be an unstoppable and winning combination to guide your Reese and Trace with the love and blue sky expectations you have for them. Your life may have been short but there was an undeniable FORCE to it which all those lucky enough to have known you will feel forever. I wish I had reminded you of the quote from Maya Angelou, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”. Of all your many gifts Judy, this is your greatest of all. Everyone who has written on this wall remembers how you made them feel and THAT is why I wish I had been a million times more forceful when I told you not to worry. All of us – but most importantly your beautiful children -- will remember how you made them feel and that, along with all the love and support of family and good friends, will guide them faithfully along the path you imagined for them. And so, my friend, my fellow “rainmaker” whose spirit is so familiar to me, I leave you with the poem I shared with you once because it so reminds me of you – and now I share with your children.
The Summer Day
Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
—Mary Oliver
Dear Trace and Reese,
I had the good luck to go to Elementary School with Judy and then to be re-connected a few years ago around her work with Caring On. Through all those years she carried such energy, joyful celebration, eagerness, and curiosity into this world. And she had such a passion to contribute and to make a difference. She was so proud of you both. She really did carry a very special light and I know that light continues in so many ways- her legacy of Caring On, the thousands of lives she touched, and most of all you. - Michelle Nunn
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